The art of receiving
As a woman who grew up in the 70’s and early 80’s, I, like many other girls my age, were shaped by a societal belief that IF I should choose a career outside the home, I should choose to be a school teacher, a nurse, a stewardess, a secretary, or maybe a bookkeeper or a switchboard operator. Still a carry over from the time of the “Woman’s Lib” movement that began in the 60’s, it was believed by many that a woman’s place was in the home, taking care of children, keeping a tidy home and attending to the needs (and often rules) of their husbands.
These “acceptable” roles for women were what I would call “supporting roles”. A mother or teacher is tending to and helping children, a nurse tends to her patients and supports the doctor in charge, a secretary does work for and helps her boss or manager. Many women enjoy and thrive in an environment of giving and supporting, and there is certainly nothing wrong with that.
These are of course, generalizations. However, as I work through my own thought processes around this topic I can see how my beliefs were shaped and how these beliefs became part of my reality, as well as much of the collective reality. I am realizing more and more, the lessons that present to me are almost always part of a larger theme that the collective is also working through.
This theme has been highly evident in my private client sessions, and interactions with groups and acquaintances. Specifically I’m seeing over and over how learned beliefs and behaviors can limit the realm of possibilities when it comes to navigating changes and manifesting desires.
This theme is all about giving and receiving. And the messages have been coming in regularly since the beginning of 2021. Actually, for me as early as 2018 when I received my crash course in the importance of receiving during my journey through breast cancer. But for the collective, it’s been evident for about six months.
There’s a balance that goes along with giving and receiving. For those of us who have been encouraged to give, who were taught it was weak to “need” or receive, this has been a tough lesson. I always believed it was better to figure things out on my own, to struggle through life’s ups and downs. I cried alone, hid my insecurities and constantly worried what others thought of me. Sadly, my goal was to “show the world” that I could do everything on my own and that I wasn’t weak and that I didn’t need help. Because needing help meant failing.
But I, like so many others, was totally missing the mark.
Most of us were never taught to how to receive or that it's even okay to receive. It’s no wonder we struggle. Who among us is used to asking or help? We know it feels good to give, we all want to give, we want to be known as the generous person, the kind and loving person. But to ask for help? Yikes, that feels kind of weird!
But here’s the thing… if we are all givers, who are we giving to? Doesn’t there have to be a receiver somewhere? We like to tell people about how giving we are but might hide or feel bad about receiving. Have you ever been a reluctant receiver? Someone does something nice for you and then you feel awkward and want to “return the favor” or pay them back. Why does receiving feel awkward? Shouldn’t it feel good?
I’ve identified three reasons why receiving could create negative feelings.
If you can identify with any of these feelings, use the affirmations or create your own that empower you to be more comfortable receiving.
As women and as individual representatives of our collective,
is it up to each of us to bring about the world we would like to see both personally and as a global community.
This is especially important as we move into this new energy of 2021. As many of us (at a collective level) are understanding more and more about the Law of Attraction and stepping into our available gifts of awareness, the ability to receive is paramount.
Whether you are wanting to change careers, travel more, increase your income or explore your passions, finding the balance between giving and receiving is what allows the law of attraction to flourish. When you are willing to receive little synchronicities and miracles just show up for you.
So practice the art of receiving and asking others for help, even if it means stepping out of your comfort zone a little. For it is with the balance of giving and receiving that we create a world where everyone is valued, everyone is nurtured and everyone can receive what it is they most desire.
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